Having sex is a choice

Having sex is a choice

To have sex takes a choice, thinking about it and planning. No one should blame it on a temptation. Everyone who has had sex before or who is still having sex today has thought about it, decided and planned to do so. We can’t accidentally find ourselves in someone’s arms unknowingly. It doesn’t require a miracle or magic to have sex, but thoughts, feelings and desire followed by actions.


Sometimes young people come to me feeling guilty for their sexual act saying, ‘Pastor, I made a mistake’. Unfortunately I don’t agree with that notion. Still, if I have to agree they have made a mistake, I would classify the mistake as a deliberate mistake.


It is a deliberate mistake because it was deeply thought of; the desire was nurtured and the plan made to act on it. All sexual encounters are pre-planned! That is why if we deliberately make mistakes we will have to bear the consequences.


Extract from my book called SEX PLEASURES AND PAINS

Why are sex-related sins so embarrassing?

Why are sex-related sins so embarrassing?

All sins are the same and there is no greater or smaller sin. All sins are deadly and bad. But why are sex-related sins so embarrassing? I am asking this question because often when people have committed sexual sins they opt to disappear within the thin air. For instance, two young people would impregnate each other and run away from their local church to fellowship in another church. Some would even stop to fellowship completely.

In born-again Christianity, it seems almost everybody finds it hard to even admit they are struggling in the area of sexuality, even when they truly do struggle with it. I have a reason to believe this intense embarrassment is not of a fleshly nature, but rather the workings of unclean spirits. It is very disturbing that we born-again Christians only talk about these challenges when someone is pregnant or is somehow caught and exposed. Otherwise in any other case we would prefer to hide and pretend as if every one of us doesn’t have sexual struggles.


Extracts from my book called SEX PLEASURES AND PAINS

The book is now available at R200. To place orders, call 0798952416 or email info@megaspeakers.co.za


Sex and sexual activities


Sex was created by God and not the devil. Unfortunately sex has been so misused and perverted in the world to the extent that the impression it has left is that sex is ugly and sinful. Sex is good and godly! Although sex means different things to different people, many will agree that if it is engaged into properly, it becomes a healthy and natural activity. Sex is wonderful and something most people will enjoy and find the true meaning of love from.

We are living in times where all of us have a right of choice. That is why people are involved in sexual activities all the time – as they choose. However, even if we all have the power to choose, we must bear in mind God’s initial intention with sex was that it should be part of the unique relationship of marriage. That is why the Bible speaks about sex so much. The Bible has a lot to say about sex and we cannot escape from what God has said.

The desire to be wealthier when you are wealthy is not greed

The desire to be wealthier when you are wealthy is not greed


Wealthy people possess an interest in the process of wealth creation. Instead of them being content with the wealth they currently have, they keep leaning and try to find new ways to become wealthier. Anyone who doesn’t grasp the importance of being wealthier may try to associate their hunger to accumulate more as greed. Classifying a person who desires to have more when he has enough as being greedy is against the scriptures because Mathew 13:12 says ‘whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them’. When you have, you must desire to have more lest you lose the little you have. Therefore God is pleased when a person desires to have more. Greed is an intense and selfish desire for something. Greed is when someone always wants to have more to satisfy his lusts. Not all wealthy people operate in this level. Many wealthy people I know are the most generous givers and create big corporates that empowers nations.

God has been good with this book of mine. It is still doing good in the market.

What you speak you become.

My friend the words we speak always shape the world around us. We are the products of our own words. As you talk, creation is listening to you. Therefore always check your words and make sure they influence all creation positively. People often remember an insult more than a complement. If you can’t say anything good, then don’t say anything at all. The bible say “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones (Proverbs 16:24).” Good words are healing words (sweet words for that matter) and those that say them become great and successful people. We increase our chance of greater success in life if we plant good seeds. People who speak healing words are always found having a likeable personality. Most people want to be around people who spread happiness with their warm words and kind comments because good words brings healing to the bones but reckless words pierce like swords ( Proverbs 12:18).

Challenges must not be strange to us

No matter who you are, keep in mind that God loves you just the way you are and God loves you enough to leave you the way you are. The one who said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” is faithful. God is watching His promises to fulfil them; to fulfil them not only for you, but also through you. We are God’s holy vessels made to reveal His glorious riches of grace. Some of His glorious riches can only be revealed when the Lord takes us through challenges. Often, in order for this world to come to God, or for someone in the world to know God, someone must be used as a vessel in the hands of God; I think this is precisely why God, in some cases, allows us to be lonely and even to suffer rejection. I think that by our acceptance of the call of Jesus, by default, we also accept being used by God for His glory. And I think challenges are an integral part of that. Therefore, challenges of life should not be a strange thing to us. God has a bigger plan, a better plan for you and me. And yes, God uses the dark times, the times of misery and pain to lead us into a new life - a new life that will bring glory to His glorious name.

From the book: Challenges of Life by Pastor Frans Mhlophe